# Cultivating Meaningful Connections: Ditching the Lukewarm People
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Chapter 1: The Importance of Timeliness
Last year, I organized a birthday celebration that included bowling and a lovely dinner, inviting four friends to join me. Can you guess how many actually arrived at the agreed time? Only one. The others arrived over an hour later, with one even claiming to have "forgotten" about my birthday, despite my reminder sent a week in advance.
Punctuality is crucial to me, as it reflects respect. Arriving an hour late without a valid reason feels extremely disrespectful—not just to me, but also to the one friend who respected my time by arriving on schedule. When someone is late, it implies they don't value my time, and, by extension, they don't value me.
I realize now that perhaps I misjudged our closeness by inviting them. When someone accepts an invitation, they should honor it and be on time. What I need to forget are these lukewarm relationships; I desire connections that are vibrant and passionate.
Section 1.1: Rejecting Half-Hearted Connections
It's crucial to stop investing your time, energy, and attention in individuals who exhibit a "one foot in, one foot out" attitude. If someone isn’t genuinely excited to be around you or takes your presence for granted, they don’t deserve a place in your life.
While it’s important to give people the opportunity to become enthusiastic about your company, if, after a reasonable period, they still don’t seem to appreciate you, there’s no obligation to keep them around. You are worthy of relationships that reciprocate your efforts.
Subsection 1.1.1: Setting Boundaries for Your Worth
Investing your limited time and energy in relationships should be a two-way street. Initially, you can extend your efforts to build a connection, but if those efforts are not returned, it’s perfectly acceptable to distance yourself from individuals who don’t appreciate you.
Those who are genuinely excited to spend time with you are the ones who will foster strong, meaningful relationships. It’s not worth your energy to maintain connections with those who are indifferent.
Section 1.2: Standing Firm Against Negativity
Don’t excuse consistent poor behavior from others. While it's understandable that people can make mistakes, allowing repeated disrespect is equivalent to giving them permission to treat you poorly.
Reflecting on my past, I remember being taken advantage of for not taking a stand. To spare you that experience, let me emphasize: either end toxic relationships, or you risk being hurt by them.
Chapter 2: Embracing Vibrant Connections
The first video, "How to Exit Your Lukewarm Era: How to Get Closer to God, Disciplined, and On Fire for Jesus❤️," explores the journey of moving from lukewarm to passionate in life and faith.
The second video, "How I Stopped Being a Lukewarm Christian...," shares personal insights on overcoming lukewarmness in faith and relationships.
By focusing on genuine connections, you will cultivate a life filled with meaningful relationships that uplift and inspire you.
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Lucas Hawthorne
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