The Unreciprocated Giver

This category may not strictly qualify as being taken advantage of, as there is no objective measure for fairness in relationships. However, many individuals get caught up in comparisons:

"I work tirelessly every day, yet he still doesn't make time for me. Is he using me?"

"I paid for everything the last time we went out, and he didn't even acknowledge it. Is he planning to take advantage of me and then leave?"

"We're engaged, so why hasn't he bought me a ring? Does he think I'm unworthy of that investment? Is he a bad partner?"

"I've poured my heart into loving him, but it feels like he doesn't care at all. Is this being taken for granted?"

People who think this way often quantify their contributions to justify feelings of fairness. They set personal benchmarks and blame their partners for not meeting these expectations, positioning themselves as victims.

This behavior likely stems from a long-standing habit of giving in relationships, where unconditional giving serves as a way to affirm self-worth. Renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong stated, "True love requires recognizing the true essence of the other person and understanding their genuine needs."

While giving freely may appear commendable, it can subtly imply: "I've done so much; I'm not to blame. Any issues in our relationship are your fault." This conveys an underlying message: "I'm the virtuous one, while you are the flawed one."

A competitive attitude may yield success in careers but often proves irrational in romantic relationships. Many observe individuals who invest more but receive less in return. Giving without conditions may seem noble, but it can be self-serving. Sometimes, a partner may need an apple, but we provide strawberries, failing to consider their true needs and then blaming them for not reciprocating adequately.

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The Unaware Victim

Have you encountered comments like these?

"Why can't you be more accommodating like other girls?"

"You always find excuses not to socialize, yet you question why we don't do romantic things after all this time?"

"Can't we just chill together daily? Why do you always need to be so clingy?"

"Who is that? Just a colleague! We're only discussing work!"

"Can't you see?"

Being taken advantage of without recognition often leads to self-blame:

"Why didn't I give him more freedom?"

"Am I overly sensitive?"

"Did I become too needy?"

"What's wrong with me?"

It's akin to being ensnared in an inescapable net.

Historically, physical abuse was viewed as the sole form of violence. However, research now recognizes verbal and emotional abuse as significant forms of psychological harm.

So, what factors contribute to being taken advantage of in relationships? Several key elements include:

The "It Must Be My Fate" Mindset

Unlike the previous type, these women realize they are being exploited but cling to the relationship due to their partner's redeeming qualities.

"He may have flaws, but he usually treats me well."

"He's a bit reliant on his mother, but he’s caring when she’s not around."

"He only gets aggressive when he's intoxicated, not all the time."

"Perhaps this is just my destiny."

"Isn't this how relationships are meant to be, given my parents' history?"

"I'm just too insignificant, so it's reasonable for him to take advantage of me."

Even when aware of their exploitation, they feel trapped, believing they can't change.

To foster a healthy, long-lasting relationship, positive interactions must outweigh negative ones significantly. As the saying goes, "Pain is love." Each conflict can leave them feeling powerless, leading to the belief that they must tolerate their partner's unfairness.

This pattern may stem from low self-esteem. As J.V. Fennell outlines in "Overcoming Low Self-Esteem," self-esteem encompasses how individuals perceive and value themselves. Low self-esteem often results in negative self-perceptions.

There's a saying: "Do your job, and you'll get what you deserve." Relationships operate similarly. When you perceive yourself as powerless, your actions align with that belief, steering the relationship in that direction.

However, when you feel let down by fate, consider that you may be orchestrating your life through your choices.

No arrangement is inherently perfect or flawed; it's all shaped by your decisions.

Unless you become aware of your subconscious influences, they will guide your life, and you might mistake them for destiny.

Recognize that you are a lion, not a sheep!

Being taken advantage of is a passive term, but you have the authority to shape your own life.

Remember, we are all unique. Regardless of the challenges we face, we always have choices. We define ourselves through our decisions, and our lives are shaped by those choices.

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